I have been reading a lot lately…
Actually, I have been reading a specific blog for the past nine months. I read all his current entries, and needing more, went on to read his archives and catching up on everything this author/actor wrote.
And you know what I got out of it? He really loves his family.
Most of you would think, “Well, so.”
Well, the “so” is this: It made me realize that I really take my family for granted.
My youngest is four years old. FOUR YEARS OLD! And even though I joke with her, and play with her, I haven’t spent any real quality time with her since needing to hold her and feed her a bottle of formula.
Many of you would ask, “How can you not spend quality time with your kids?”
Simple. I give myself way too many projects to do that take up all my so-called “Free-Time” that I should be spending getting to know my own kids.
I also noticed that this author makes himself step away from the computer/projects and does things with his family and when he writes about those experiences, it makes me want to be able to write about my own.
Maybe this is why my six-year-old boy is having attitude problems lately. Between switching to night shift and staying on the computer all day, I have disrupted his schedule and haven’t really been there as much as I used to.
So you know what I did yesterday, when I got off of work early, instead of planting my ass in front of my computer and staring at the many projects I never feel like doing, I talked my wife into letting the kids stay up longer.
We then went through the mail together. Now, I know that seems kind of odd, but we went page by page and looked at all the coupons and they told me what they would like to try.
We then pulled out our photo box and looked through photos of when I was their age.
Today was an even funner day (Is that even a word?) Today was supposed to be gift wrapping day. But since nothing was sorted, I took my son and my 3 year old nephew out to Office Max where we printed up the last of our Christmas Cards. We even rocked out in the car to my iPod to the songs from Shrek 2. Just us guys.
Then when dinner rolled around we all sat down and had pizza and it was great just sitting there, even when I was done and just watching the kids act goofy. I loved the feeling I had interacting with them and goofing off at the table.
And yet, I still had time today to do some projects. I actually felt like I got more done, because I wasn’t trying to cram them all into one day. I just relaxed and just hung out with my kids and if I had time to do some of a project, great! If not, oh well. At least I spent time with my kids.
I LOVED IT! I felt like I connected with my son AND my nephew! It used to always feel like a chore, something I had to do, but my heart wasn’t in it. Today, it was something I really wanted to do and want to do again. I found myself looking at the “around town” section of the newspaper seeing what is coming up that I can take my kids to. I used to NEVER do that.
So thank you Wil Wheaton, for sharing your experiences with me, it has helped me to open my eyes and realize that family means so much. And I need to realize that my shit can wait. Sometimes theirs cannot. I need to really “be here for them” and not “here just for me”.
I just had a revelation. I was doing exactly what my parents did to me. Their TV shows or work or projects were always more important whenever I had something to share with them or do with them. Maybe now that I realized I was repeating a cycle, maybe I can now break it.