What a day.
It started out good. We went over to my great-aunts and grandmothers in the morning to do gifts and brunch. My dad wasn’t there yet, so we did our gifts and helped finish the get the food ready.
Finally my dad shows up and we said hi, he came in and set his stuff down. And the most horrid thing happened…
My ex-uncle, Skip, walked in (my dad’s older brother). I immediately got a headache.
This man verbally abused me for 20 years. This man is so vile, that whenever he was around, my dad would even join in with him and verbally abuse me as well. I think it was a control issue. This man had such an influence in my father’s life (as an authorative figure) that my dad became this kid that needed approval.
So he walks in. And I am immediately pissed. Pissed at the fact that they had mentioned that he would be in town and we specifically said we didn’t want to see him, if he was going to be there, we would not. They said he wouldn’t. For weeks they said he would not be there.
So we were pissed that he was there.
I guess I should explain, the main I reason I don’t want to be around this man, was that the last time I saw him, we got into a HUGE argument, because he was trying to do the same thing to my son, that he did to me. Telling us to make sure he doesn’t become a fag, etc. And saying this to Dominic, who was only 4 or 5 at the time. And he kept calling him sparky.
So I was extremely pissed, I immediately moved all our dinner plates to another table, away from them. But then they all ate in the living room, so that didn’t help matters. Everything was pretty much okay, he didn’t try to talk to me or my family. But the tension was in the air. Especially, with my dad, like he knew I was pissed and he was pleased at it. Which made me even more aggravated.
As we were getting ready to leave, they were talking about Mikayla in Dance and Dominic mentioned that he used to be in dance, but now he is wrestling (which he isn’t) and then my ex-uncle says, “Good, we don’t want you to become a sissy boy” (or something to that nature.)
I was so glad we were on our way out, that I let it slide and we immediately left.
So then we left and came home, and got ready for our next party. Which was such a HUGE hit. We had lots more fun. Everything turned out great and we loved seeing everyone!
Thankfully tomorrow is Christmas and it will be a better day!