Tonight Amy and I had Couples Massage Training* with our Message Therapist Steph over at StoneWater Massage & Skin Care.
Before I get to far into this post, I want to be clear, this was not a “sensual” couples massage class. This was just basic techniques to help each other relieve pain and tension when we are at home and not able to book with Steph for a more thorough pain relief session.
Now that I have that out of the way, let me just say, that I don’t like giving massages.
Amy and I tried learning through books years ago because Amy never found a MT that gave enough pressure that wasn’t “ticklish” for her or didn’t cause her more pain afterwards; and I was just a wuss about going to a MT and being in just my undies around a stranger. (How little I really knew–I didn’t know that you were 95% covered up by a blanket throughout the massage).
But from those books (and not having all the right tools–like an actual massage table) it was just too much work and too painful for me. Literally leaning over (when we would be on the floor) and giving Amy a massage hurt my lower back so much that I could only do it for a few minutes and I would get frustrated, impatient and just rush through it. Having her lie on the bed didn’t help the height, because you could only really stand on one side of her (and still, it wasn’t high enough).
Essentially I gave up getting any kind of massage at home for pain relief, just so that I wouldn’t have to give a massage in return. This wasn’t fair to Amy and it wasn’t fair to me.
Then Steph entered into our lives.
Amy finally found someone who applied enough pressure, and I found someone I could be comfortable around and not feel so insecure about myself (for anyone who has seen me, you know that I am a wookie…something I am always insecure about…I hate going to pools or beaches and taking my shirt off because of this.)
Steph creates such a relaxing and calm atmosphere and immediately puts you at ease that nothing else really matters. All that matters is that your there to relax and relieve pain and tension.
So, Amy and I have been seeing Steph for at least a year now. So when we found out she offered Couple Massage Training*, we thought we would give learning couples massage another shot.
I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I was not expecting to have so much fun…even when both of the women were beating the crap out of me (which, I should state, I need due to what I do for a living and my car accident…who knew I would pay to get beaten up later in life).
Steph was very patient with us and was very thorough in explaining why you would use certain techniques in certain areas and even showed us some of her secrets…a sort of “behind the scenes” stuff you never knew she did when she is working on you (because, well, your face down).
I really enjoyed being able to finally ask Steph questions. I was always so calmed or relaxed during my massages that I would forget to ask her things or techniques I was curious about.
In this setting (which was still very relaxing, yet very casual) it was just so much fun to be able to talk, learn and at times, be a little entertaining (e.g. when Amy was using her elbow on the side of my “glute” and asked Steph..“How do ever you feel any kind of bone through all this?”–Ah. My wife. Ever to speak her mind.)
Steph just made it so much fun that I actually want to go out and buy a massage table just so that its easier for Amy and I to give each other a massage.
To think that when I have muscle spasm flair ups from my accident, Amy could easily work them out (especially when they show up right before its time for me to go to work) and give me some pain relief until I can see Steph. Or when Amy has one of her migraines, I know where the pressure points are to help relieve it instantly!
I think what really helped the most for both of us…is that we BOTH see Steph fairly regularly. The fact that we share the same MT and had her for our trainer for this class was especially helpful!
Steph was able to show me exactly where Amy has “issues” and how I can help her relieve some of that pain, and Amy knows exactly where my “issues” are and how she can help me relieve some of that pain.
I highly recommend this class for any couple. Even better if you both book massages with Steph before hand so she knows where your “issues” are (although she can easily find them out during the class too!).
Or, if your not a couple, just book a massage with Steph or anyone at StoneWater Massage. I cannot rave enough over their Stonewater-ssage (Hot Stone Massage AND facial!), Their Hot Stone Massage, or even their custom massage.
And trust me when I say, 60-minutes is never enough! Book a 75‑, or even better, a 90-minute massage. Its worth it and you will feel so good afterwards.
And one more plug…ask Steph about the HoneyLift Massage Lotion. It has worked WONDERS for the skin on my face. No more flaky/oily skin that I have been battling for years. I got it instantly cleared up on the FIRST use.
So all in all, a great evening spending time with my wife…and my favorite MT. Thank you so much Steph!
Now…to go find my thong before my next massage appointment (total inside joke there…you had to be there to appreciate that statement.)